In my family, we don’t celebrate what many in the adoption world call “Gotcha Day.” We celebrate our kids’ birthdays, but we don’t celebrate the actual adoption day because we were a family long before the courts announced that we were. Many families who adopt out of foster care feel the same way. The actual adoption day is so full of emotions and not all of them should be celebrated. So many years, the date and day go unnoticed by me, but today I noticed. Six years ago today was our final adoption day for K. She would love to be hosting a party tonight, but instead, it’s business as usual with her at a dance lesson, her dad out hunting, her brother watching TV and the sun rising and setting the same as it always does. So, though I won’t celebrate, today, since I noticed, I will reflect. I dug out my journal and thought I’d share:
10-3-11 K’s ADOPTION DAY. Oh Lord, my house is full. All of my family safe and sound under one roof. What a blessing. What a gift. Today is Kaylee’s adoption day and I am full of emotions. I’m nervous, excited, scared and still a tad worried. What a journey this has been. There have been times when I’ve held a broken K and cried, there have been hugs to reassure her return, there have been days of crying in my closet refusing to eat. So, today we rejoice. Help me Lord to be a witness to you. Help me be grateful in all circumstances. Help me to witness to you. Let your light shine through and let this day be a celebration. Bring JOY to this family and healing to K. *** Wrote the above and then read the Upper Room. “In the same way your light must shine before people so that they will see the good things you do and praise your Father in heaven. — Matt 5:16 TEV Thought for the day: People are watching. What will my example inspire?”
“Your example will inspire others.”
It is my prayer that I’ve set a good example for others and that I have been a good witness in this continuing journey. Let’s all try to make our examples inspire others!