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Stringing Beads

The following is a little blast from the past.

I read somewhere that being a homemaker is like stringing beads and forgetting to knot the end.  How true that can be.  And being a mother is just about the same scenario.  The laundry is never finished.  Just when I empty the last basekt, the baby spits up.  After the sink drains of warm, soapy water, I find a cup under the couch and have no idea what was drunk out of it…or when.  The everyday chores are just that, every day!  The kids are bathed and smell great until they eat their next meal.  The fresh scent of baby powder is quickly replaced with dirty diaper odor.  An entire box of cereal gets dumped within\ minutes of running the vacuum.  When my husband comes home from work and innocently asks, “What did you do today?”  I could cry.  He can’t see what I’ve accomplished since none of the tasks stay done.  I haven’t sat down all day and still don’t feel I can because things are not yet in order.

Before I had children, I was a person who thrived on accomplishments and finishing tasks.  At the office, when I finished a form and filed it away, there was a true sense of completion.  With my new job, Motherhood, I haven’t had that feeling, and I know that my job as a mother is just beginning.  Three and a half years into this new career I recognize that my need to complete a task is as important as ever.  I feel so pleased with myself when I get to the last page of a book — even if it is a book on sibling rivalry.  I now try to sit down and cross-stitch or write every day just so that I can see something I did was not undone in the same day.  I realize that my personality requires that I take some time daily to accomplish something concrete.  My job of nurturing my children and my daily tasks are important, but so is my sense of accomplishment.  For now, I will try to complete something small for myself every day, while continuing to do all the other tasks of a homemaker and mother.  Then, when my children are grown, and the knot is tied at the end of this string of beads, I will really know what it feels like to be rewarded with a completed project.  I hope that it will be a project well done because I also took the time to care for myself.

Linda J. Beck writes from her home in Chicora, Pennsylvania.  She and her husband George are the parents of three children, Kevin (four-and-a-half), Lori (two) & Nicole (two months).

Originally published in Welcome Home May 1994 – Volume11, No.5

NOTE:  I’ll let you know when the I tie that knot!.  Linda J. Beck now writes from her home in Chicora, Pennsylvania.  She and her husband George are the parents of FIVE children, Kevin (25), Lori (23), Nicole (21), Paul (16) & Kaylee (8!)

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