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I’m An Old Mom!

I’m an old mom.  I’m chronologically old for being the mom of a 9 year old, but I’m also an Old (AKA experienced Mom) as I’ve been at this for over 25 years.  This can be both a good thing and a bad thing.  Let me just share.

This week my 9 year old daughter wanted to give me a tattoo.  Not wanting to disappoint and in an attempt to try to be hip and trendy, I allowed her to choose this large, colorful tattoo.  I chose to have it on my inner wrist as I thought that was cool positioning.  I did request she do a really neat job of it as I would have it on for the church picnic.  She was taking this task very seriously and applied it carefully.  She held the wet sponge on my wrist for a proper length of time and was carefully removing the paper backing when I saw a flaw.  Some discoloration was fading out the bottom of the tattoo.  I was disappointed that the tattoo didn’t have clear boundaries and asked her to be more gentle and slow in removing it.  Turns out the tattoo was fine.  The discoloration was simply an age spot.  True Story.

So I have some age spots, but I also have some wisdom.  I have been at this long enough to know that it truly doesn’t matter if I have a tattoo on my inner wrist for a church picnic.  It also doesn’t matter too much if remnants of glitter tattoos linger on her summer bruised legs longer than I had hoped;.  It doesn’t matter if you have to buy cookies from Sam’s Club instead of baking them.  My kids are not practicing math facts every day this summer, they aren’t even completing all their chores each day.  What they are doing is having fun.  They are going to camp, swimming, building forts, making friends, playing four square & staying in PJs if we don’t have to go out.  One BIG reason for this is that I’m an old mom. I’m too tired to diligently instruct & too tired to plan the summer as all the Parenting magazines suggest.  I’ve read the articles, I’ve made attempts.  I’ve succeeded and I’ve failed.  Now that I’m old, I’m letting my kids figure out summer just like I had to when I was a kid.  My mom didn’t hold the role of Activities Director and somehow the neighbor kids and I figured out how to have a good time.

So, whether you are a young Mom scheduling, planning & creating things with your kids or if you are an older mom who lets your kids figure it out on their own, I wish you much success.  I hope this is the best summer ever for all involved!

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The Start of Summer

Last year I anticipated Summer and was excited for all the things I hoped I would do. Weekends at the River, picnics, trips to the Beach, Amusement Parks, all things that define Summer. I kicked it off Memorial Day Weekend with friends and family and then a wonderful trip to the Outer Banks with George to finish off May. June was full of promise, then on June 3rd my son had an accident which was serious emotionally and physically for all the family. I spent the rest of my summer setting my sights on a new Start Date to kick off summer. OK, so June might be a wash, but starting July 1, I’m going to have a “do-over.” I declared July 1 as a new beginning. I made it until July 5th when another situation arose and again after I dealt with it, I set my sights on another start date to summer. Labor Day found me looking back at a rainy, tumultuous summer full of storms from the skies and storms from the heart. I weathered them all and grew in unique ways, but it certainly wasn’t the summer that the songs we listen to while driving in our cars with the windows rolled down are talking about.

Memorial Day Weekend 2015. As it approached I was determined to make this the summer I had hoped that 2014 would be. I was proactive, realistic and sensible in my planning. We bought bicycles so I could exercise on the trail by our river house. I bought a lap top to take with me on weekends so I could focus on my writing more. I know that 2015 will have some challenges because the kids (my kids) who used to enjoy lazy summer days boating will not be around as adulthood has called them to employment. But, knowing that it would be a “different” kind of summer, I was excited about my bike and my laptop and my control of my destiny.

Enter Thursday Evening, Memorial Day Weekend Eve….Rushing like a mad woman to get the work done so I could enjoy this weekend to the best of my ability, I tripped over a root and broke my hand. I am now donning a cast that limits my typing and makes biking impossible at this point. I spent the first weekend of River Season swollen, sore, barely able to walk and with scrapes on my face. What’s a girl to do? I allowed myself some pity, I enjoyed the family and friends and the distractions of the weekend, but now, reality has set in. Summer 2015 has arrived with an injury and an inconvenience. I guess I’ll have to schedule a “do-over.” Really, Memorial Day isn’t the official first day of Summer. Maybe I’ll go with June 5th – The last day of school….that’s the official first day of summer. Or if something happens that day, I think I might start again mid June and call Father’s Day the kick off to my fresh start. Or if something spoils that, I can choose June 21st, the Summer Solstice and official first day of summer. If I’m not all better by then, July 1st would be the perfect time to start over. Etc…

So, when things don’t work out as we hope, we have a choice. We can be disappointed about the change of plans, or we can choose to start over. We can choose joy in all circumstances. We can give thanks in all circumstances. I’m considering kicking off a new summer season right now.  I’m going to grab an iced tea, some ibuprofen since this awkward typing has hurt my hand and I’m going to read on the back deck under my new umbrella.  Life is good. (And I’m so thankful I’m right handed!)

Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.” –Nehemiah 8:10

.give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. –1Thes 5:18

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